Believe it or not, experts say your personality can actually cause stress. It is widely recognized that we are born with a predisposition to a certain personality, but of course environmental factors and family circumstances can have an effect on it too. These factors can create habits or addictions in addition to your original traits. You will always have your “core” personality, but you can start to change other aspect of yourself, thus alleviating some stresses. First, you need to ask yourself if you have low self-esteem. Do you feel or think you are inferior to others? Do you keep being negative with any mistakes you make? Do you think of yourself as the sum of your mistakes? If any of these statements are true, then you could have low self-esteem and you would benefit from building this in the first instance.
You may (or may not) be aware that "negative conversations" take place in your head (that small voice that says you are too fat, stupid, thick, slow, etc). You will very rarely hear a positive voice saying (you are, brilliant, clever, empathic, etc). The first step is to change the negative voice into the positive voice. After all, if all you can hear is negative words then they will embed into your subconscious. Much better to elect to make your subconscious hear positive words of praise. One of the best ways to do this is to follow a negative thought IMMEDIATELY with a positive one. Over time, this will become automatic until your negative thoughts almost disappear. Make a list of all the things you have achieved such as: a job, learning achievements, health, fitness, a house, friends, etc. That way you will always have something positive to look at and remind you of how great you really are.
Stress can also be caused by overload. Take too much? Do you have too much responsibility? Although there are certain responsibilities that we must carry out at home, at work, and at school, sometimes we can overdo it. List your main responsibilities and see if you have a way to shorten the list. You may be surprised how much you have taken. With a little planning, you may be able to transfer some of your responsibilities to other members of your household or colleagues. If your stress level seems out of control, be sure to talk to your partner and your boss. Together, you can work on strategies to reduce the amount of stress you experience. Let's face it. Some of us are control freaks. We feel that we have to control every detail in our field of vision. If you fall into this category, you may get stressed out because of your dominant nature. You may also find that this weakness negatively affects your personal life, causing you to experience additional stress in your relationship. To counter this instinct why not consider a reiki empowerment such as anti-stress empowerment.
You cannot control everything and once you realize this your life should become easier. Nobody is perfect, no matter what it looks like on social media, and everybody feels inadequate or low at times. The trick is not to dwell on it or let it take over your life. Keep positive and upbeat and your life will be so much better and stress-free. Know that “this too will pass.”
Try to recognize that admitting your mistakes is half the battle. Once you know what personal weaknesses you need to work on, you can better reduce your stress levels. Understand that it has taken you a long time to develop these personality flaws, so it may take time to correct them. If you need a little more help you can try hypnosis (here is a wide range of help to look through.)